Postponing ejaculation - The mental approach
Sexual Improvement - Ejaculation control
Premature ejaculation is a huge issue for the morepart of men in the world. It makes us feel inadequate and immasculine. We get very frustrated, as most of us WANT to please our women. We WANT to penetrate them until they get the best earth-shaking orgasms of their life, before we decide to blow our load. But no matter how much we want it, we seem to lack ejaculation control completely. In fact, the harder we think about it, the harder it seem to keep the ejaculation afar. This is, ofcourse, because an orgasm is 99% in your head.
The mental aspect of ejaculation
Why does it seem that the more we think about not to ejaculate, the more we fail to postpone ejaculation? The simple and true explanation of this, is that anxiety and other negative emotions makes you loose ejaculation control! The situation of both you and your partner wanting you to postpone ejaculation, creates an emotional pressure that subconciously make you want to escape the situation as soon as possible. In reality, premature ejaculation is not a physical problem. It is something that needs to be worked on mentally.
In order to fight premature ejaculation, we need to take control over the mental situation. We need to get rid of all the pressure related to cumming too soon. But how do we remain calm in a situation like that? Seems like a real Catch 22, doesn't it?
Mental technique on how to postpone ejaculation
When we get stimulated towards an orgasm, our body responds in various ways. This is due to the brain sending out all sorts of chemicals in our body, making it physically react rather strongly. These are the most noticeable physical pre-orgasm reactions:
- Heart rate rapidly increases
- Breathing gets heavier and faster
Are you recognizing any if the signs? This may look obvious, but it is very useful information which I will come back to in a little while. First, I want to talk about another mental state of mind that the body reacts in a similar way to; PANIC. It may sound harsh to compare panic with premature ejaculations, but bear with me. Have you ever felt panic, or scared, and intensively though "I am not going to panic, I am not going to panic!". This is a bad idea, as thinking of the negative feeling only gives it more power, and you panic even more!
No, the only mental way of fighting panic, is to calm yourself down. This is done by breathing deep and slowly, which eventually leads to a decrease in heartrate. Do you see the pattern? In order to subside panic, we are fighting the bodily reaction by doing the exact opposite! The exact same approach can be successully used to postpone ejaculation!
If you do this correctly so that you feel the serenity fill you up, the orgasm will subside. The calmer you are, the less tension you feel and the less stress is put on the orgasm.
However, there are another important aspect of releasing anxiety from the situation, and that is the concern of her pleasure. Fortunately, there is a great way to reverse this source of anxiety to help us on how to postpone ejaculation; By learning how to stimulate her without even entering her!
Give her immaculate orgasms before penetration!
The best way to put the anxiety off of premature ejaculation, is actually to give her the pleasure of her lifetime, before penetration even begins! This has several positive effects on postponing ejaculation;
- She will radiate less pressure on you, as she is already sexually satisfied!
- You will get more confidence as you already feel like you had an excellent sexual performance
- Overall tension over postponing ejaculation will decrease, as premature ejaculation isn't as big of a deal anymore!
When you learn how to pleasure her in other ways than by penetration, all the tension around premature ejaculation evaporates, leading to you being able to postpone ejaculation much easier!
Every woman has the ability to recieve extraordinary pleasure without penetration, but not anyone responds the same way to every technique. Some women responds best from clitorial stimulation, others via G-spot stimulation. You need to find the optimal way to satisfy your woman. You will feel MUCH more in control of the situation, when you know how to stimulate her without your dick. Also, when you have learned a technique to satisfy her, you can switch to this technique during penetration when you feel that you can no longer postpone ejaculation. Very benificial!
Good luck with controlling ejaculation!